User Profile

I'm 31 years old... I live about 65 minutes from Pittsburgh.
I'm gay, and I'm out to a few family members, and a few friends. I don't really hide my sexual orientation, but I don't really feel it's anyone's business.
It's sort of on a "need to know" basis, I guess.

I'm very comfortable with who I am, but it hasn't always been that way. Growing up Catholic, and in a very conservative area, I felt out of place and abnormal... and the daily taunts and threats from my classmates in school didn't help... so I grew to dislike myself.
Eventually I got to a point where I was absolutely miserable, and there was no joy in my life anymore. Thankfully though, I'm the kind of person that when I feel backed into a corner like that, I come out fighting... and that's what I did.
I realized that I was my own greatest enemy, and that if I wasn't happy, it was up to me to change that.
So I did.
It was a long road, but I learned to accept who I am, and that I cannot change that. And frankly, now I wouldnt change who I am even if I could.
I'm a good guy... not perfect, but I try to be as good of a person as I can be. Sometimes I make bad choices, but that's all a part of learning.
I think the biggest thing that I've learned is that "homosexual" is what I am, it's not WHO I am.
I was just as guilty of gay stereotypes as anyone... but now that I actually have some gay friends, and now that I'm actually comfortable in my own skin, I know that being gay isn't the horrible thing so many people make you think it is.
Kinda sad that you can BE something, yet let so many people convince you that it's wrong to be that way.
Ah well, again it's all part of that learning process.
And I wouldn't change a thing about the road, or where it has taken me... I'm happier now than I have ever been in my life.
I'm not saying that my life is perfect, or that I don't have any problems... I'm just saying that accepting yourself is a huge step in learning how to deal with life.

Well... now that I have COMPLETELY bored you, I'll tell you a few things about myself that are a little less heavy...

I'm a HUGE music fan... I need music the same way I need oxygen. Turning on the stereo is the first thing I do every morning, and the last thing I do every night.
I listen to a wide variety of styles and artists, but my all-time favorite is Stevie Nicks.
Stevie's lyrics touch me in a way no other songwriter ever has. It's hard for me to explain... "it's just a feeling..."

Outside of Stevie, I listen to Tom Petty And The Heartbreakers, Heart, Madonna, Led Zeppelin, Chris Isaak, Nine Inch Nails, Green Day, Soul Decision, Boyzone, Bonnie Tyler, The Eagles, Tina Turner, Concrete Blond... and a whole host of others, in many different genres.

Well, that's enough for now. :-)

Drop me a line if you'd like to say Hi!